Trauma in Military Families

Trauma in Military Families By Phil Guistwite, LMFT Company Chaplain & Clinical Director of Mental Health Services I was privileged to be a US Army Chaplain on active duty for twenty years. My wife served next to me and she became a US Army civilian employee...

Emotionally Safe Spaces

Emotionally Safe Spaces Hayat Shawwa, LCSW Emotional safety. It’s what we are all looking for, and too often fail to find. In a world where we are constantly surrounded by so many people, it’s ironic that it’s become so hard to find. It’s often what brings people to...

Forgiven for Reconciliation

Forgiven for Reconciliation by Olatunde Howard, MA, LMFT (I’m writing as an LMFT who follows Jesus. For readers who do not follow Him, what I’m writing can still be helpful to you.) The reason God is so forgiving is that He is so relational.Forgiveness is God’s...

Are you sleeping with the enemy?

Are you sleeping with the enemy? by Olatunde Howard, MA, LMFT The more I do couple’s therapy, the more convinced I am that couples have one essential problem, and one only: enmity. John Gottman calls it “contempt.” It’s when couples assume the worst about each...

How “Rebounding” Can Be Healthy

How “Rebounding” Can Be Healthy by Olatunde Howard, MA, LMFT “Instead of waiting to get better before you meet a guy, why don’t you meet a guy and see if that helps you get better?” A line from the movie “Gone”. I hear it all the time. I don’t want to “rebound.” I...

Are you okay RIGHT NOW?

Are you okay RIGHT NOW? by Olatunde Howard, MA, LMFT Say I go into the lobby of One-Eighty. I’m going to get a couple to bring them to my office for couples therapy. When I get to the lobby, they are laughing, giggling, and chuckling. Clearly happy. Clearly happy with...