Love Bombing? by Olatunde Howard, MA, LMFT Okay. I’m going to define this to the best of how I’ve heard about it or how it’s been presented to me. It seems like “love bombing” happens when affection and adoration are weapons used with negative intentions. If that’s...
What is “Emotional Healing”? by Olatunde Howard, MA, LMFT First, let’s look at physical healing. Say I have a bad fall and I scrape my knee–losing skin. First, I’d clean the scrape with water and hydrogen peroxide. Next, I’d put on an antibiotic ointment...
Forgiven for Reconciliation by Olatunde Howard, MA, LMFT (I’m writing as an LMFT who follows Jesus. For readers who do not follow Him, what I’m writing can still be helpful to you.) The reason God is so forgiving is that He is so relational.Forgiveness is God’s...
Are you sleeping with the enemy? by Olatunde Howard, MA, LMFT The more I do couple’s therapy, the more convinced I am that couples have one essential problem, and one only: enmity. John Gottman calls it “contempt.” It’s when couples assume the worst about each...
How “Rebounding” Can Be Healthy by Olatunde Howard, MA, LMFT “Instead of waiting to get better before you meet a guy, why don’t you meet a guy and see if that helps you get better?” A line from the movie “Gone”. I hear it all the time. I don’t want to “rebound.” I...
How can you be okay (and stay okay) RIGHT NOW? by Olatunde Howard, MA, LMFT The answer is actually simple… I would even say the execution of the answer is simple. Typically, the truth is not complicated–especially when we’re talking about relationships. In fact, I...
