The Day I Almost Lost My Wife
by Michael Garner, M.A., LPC
Needless to say, this has rocked my world and has really made me think. I am so thankful she is still here. I am thankful to hear my kids still call out for their mommy and to hear her answer. I am thankful to see her wonderful face when I come home from work. It is hard to think that I almost lost her.
After something this traumatic happens, it really causes you to begin to rethink your relationships. I thought back over the years of our relationship, the good and the bad times. I started to realize that I have actually nearly lost my wife countless number of times.
Times when she would ask for something and I was too busy doing something ‘important’ to offer a helping hand. Times when she needed a shoulder to cry on and I was too busy holding on to my own grudge. Times when she needed me to shut my mouth and just truly listen to her heart instead of listening for how I was going to respond.
During each of these moments I lost my wife. I began to lose a piece of her heart. How many times have I almost lost the love of my life because of some temporary grudge or frustration over something so petty? As a marriage counselor, I hear stories of husbands and wives that have ‘fallen out of love’. When asked what happened, I often hear that life just got in the way. It makes me wonder how often they chose something other than their relationship, slowly losing their spouse.
As I reflect on my own relationships, I can now see that there are times that my wife was slowly slipping through my grips. These past few weeks have allowed me to wake up, see where I may be losing my wife, and reach out with an ever-tightening grip. God forbid I lose the person that I love so dearly. I don’t know about you, but the reality that I could lose my wife scares me. It is one thing to lose her through some unforeseen health issue, but it is another thing altogether to lose her because I was too busy looking somewhere else. Join me in refusing to let go, refusing to give up, and refusing to lose your spouse!
Michael Garner MA, LMFT, LPC
is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC). Michael earned his Master of Arts in Professional Counseling from Liberty University and his Bachelor’s degree from Southeastern University. Read More
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