Preparing to Leave My Wife
by Michael Garner, M.A., LPC
In my line of business I hear many men and women share that they love their family, yet the chaos and the stress that is present at home makes it difficult for them to want to be home. I actually heard one husband say, ‘I would rather be at work, than I would be at home with my wife and kids’. This makes my heart ache. Our home, which should be our safe place can often turn into a danger zone in which we have to constantly walk on egg shells so as to avoid the next huge argument. I am not any better than the next man. Our family has difficult times just like the next. Honestly, there are days I would rather be at work than at home. At work, at least I can control my environment and ‘fix problems’. At home, there is no easy fix.
I get it, I understand sometimes it is easier to just be doing something productive, or scoot out and play golf, hang out with the guys, or just disappear into the man cave for hours at a time. But our family is hurting. My family, your family, they need us. They need the men in their lives to go home and be present with them. Not physically present, but emotionally present. Engaged in their lives, asking them the hard questions of how they are doing. If you are like me, its not that easy sometimes (I have three girls and my wife at home, my son and I are greatly out numbered).
Be the man you want to be, be the man that you were meant to be. For some of you, that is a different picture than your father. For others, maybe you should be more like your father. Regardless, it is time to step up. Man up and be the man of your house. Go home, love well and live well.
Today after work or this weekend, sit down with your wife (or women sit down with your husband) and tell them how much they mean to you. Make it a big deal!
If you have children, point out to them how proud you are to be their dad (or their mom).
Do something as a whole family you will all remember (don’t forget Valentine’s Day is coming up).
Michael Garner MA, LMFT, LPC
is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC). Michael earned his Master of Arts in Professional Counseling from Liberty University and his Bachelor’s degree from Southeastern University. Read More
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